Truthfulness and Lying

  • Sidq fil-iman (truthfulness in belief) is the belief in the oneness of Allah SWT and in the Prophet (ﷺ).  To be truthful, we have to believe this first in our heart and then affirm it with our tongue

o   The biggest truth is the oneness of Allah and belief in the Prophet (ﷺ)

  • Sidq fin-niyyah (truthfulness in intention)  –  Hadith:  Verily actions are by their intentions
  • Sidq fil-amal (truthfulness in action) is our actions coinciding with what we believe to be true
  • In the books of adab, as-sidq (truthfulness) is defined as when the heart and the tongue correspond with each other, even if what the person believes is incorrect
  •   يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ وَقُولُواْ قَوۡلاً۬ سَدِيدً۬ا    (Oh you who believe, fear Allah, and speak in straightforward words  Surah 33, Verse 70)

o   The sahaba said  وَقُولُواْ قَوۡلاً۬ سَدِيدً۬ا   means speaking the truth is a means for your deeds being accepted

o   Being truthful leads to bir (righteous deeds) and that guides us towards Paradise

  •  لَّيۡسَ ٱلۡبِرَّ أَن تُوَلُّواْ وُجُوهَكُمۡ قِبَلَ ٱلۡمَشۡرِقِ وَٱلۡمَغۡرِبِ وَلَـٰكِنَّ ٱلۡبِرَّ مَنۡ ءَامَنَ بِٱللَّهِ وَٱلۡيَوۡمِ ٱلۡأَخِرِ وَٱلۡمَلَـٰٓٮِٕڪَةِ وَٱلۡكِتَـٰبِ وَٱلنَّبِيِّـۧنَ وَءَاتَى ٱلۡمَالَ عَلَىٰ حُبِّهِۦ ذَوِى ٱلۡقُرۡبَىٰ وَٱلۡيَتَـٰمَىٰ وَٱلۡمَسَـٰكِينَ وَٱبۡنَ ٱلسَّبِيلِ وَٱلسَّآٮِٕلِينَ وَفِى ٱلرِّقَابِ وَأَقَامَ ٱلصَّلَوٰةَ وَءَاتَى ٱلزَّڪَوٰةَ وَٱلۡمُوفُونَ بِعَهۡدِهِمۡ إِذَا عَـٰهَدُواْ‌ۖ وَٱلصَّـٰبِرِينَ فِى ٱلۡبَأۡسَآءِ وَٱلضَّرَّآءِ وَحِينَ ٱلۡبَأۡسِ‌ۗ أُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ ٱلَّذِينَ صَدَقُواْ‌ۖ وَأُوْلَـٰٓٮِٕكَ هُمُ ٱلۡمُتَّقُونَ    (Righteousness is not merely that you turn your faces to the East or West; but righteousness is that one believes in Allah and the Last Day and the angels and the Book and the Prophets, and gives wealth, despite his love for it, to relatives, and to orphans, the helpless, the wayfarer, and to those who ask, and spends in freeing slaves and observes Salah and pays Zakah, and the act of those who fulfill their covenant when they enter into a covenant, and of course, those who are patient in hardship and suffering when in battle.  Those are the ones who are truthful, and those are the God-fearing Surah 2, Verse 177)

o   All the attributes in this verse are born from sidq and these are all acts of bir (righteousness) and bir will guide us towards Paradise

o   If truthfulness leads us to Paradise, then lying will leads us to the hellfire

o   If a person is sadiq, then he will have the quality of taqwa inside of him.  If a person is muttaqi, he will some some sidq in him

o   The best rank after the anbiya (Prophets) is to be amongst the siddiqen (truthful)

  • Hadith:  Being truthful will give you deliverance from all your difficulties and lying will destroy you
  • Sidq is a fundamental attribute of a believer.  Kidb (lying) is the fundamental attribute of a kaafir.  The first kidb of a disbeliever is to reject Allah SWT
  • Laugher induced through sidq is halal.  The Prophet (ﷺ) did not have a dry personality and used to make truthful jokes

o   An old woman came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and asked ‘Make dua that I enter paradise.’  The Prophet (ﷺ) said ‘No old woman is going to enter paradise.’  The woman started crying.  Thereafter, the Prophet (ﷺ) said ‘No woman is going enter paradise as an old woman because everybody will be made young.’

o   A man came to the Prophet (ﷺ) asking for a beast to ride.  The Prophet (ﷺ) said ‘I will give you the off-spring of a she-camel to ride.’  He said, ‘O Messenger of Allah , what will I do with the off-spring of a she-camel?’  The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ‘Isnt every riding camel an off-spring of a she-camel?’

  • Laughter induced through kidb is haram and sows the seeds for crying in the future
  • Hadith:  Meet your brother with a smile on your face
  •  يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ ٱتَّقُواْ ٱللَّهَ وَكُونُواْ مَعَ ٱلصَّـٰدِقِينَ    (Oh believers, fear Allah, and be in the company of the truthful  Surah 9, Verse 119)

o   The definition of sidq is in the ayah above (Surah 2, Verse 177)

o   The ulema have said in order for us to fear Allah, we have to have the attributes of a sadiq.  To get the attributes of a sadiq, we have to stay in the company of someone who is sadiq

o   Being in the company of those who are truthful will also make us truthful

  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said, the one who stays silent will attain success
  • We should teach our children at a young age to always speak the truth and not put our child in a situation where they feel compelled to lie

Cursing:

  • When a person uses a curse word, he curdles the other person inside
  • It is a misuse of the tongue to say things to harm people
  • The tongue of the intellect is behind its heart.  The heart of a fool is behind his tongue
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said a person can cause his own parents to be cursed.  When he curses another person’s parents and family, that person in return will curse his parents and family
  • A man curses when he is angry.  A real man does not use curse words
  • When a person lies, the angels run away from him because of the bad smell that comes out of his mouth from lying.  Cursing is worse than lying
  • Cursing does not suit the personality of someone who is noble

o   The Prophet (ﷺ) was passing by Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (RAH) and heard him shouting at his servant, using strong words.  The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  A siddiq and using these types of words?  Never by the Lord of the Kaaba can this happen that a siddiq’s tongue be at this level

o   Using slang words in our normal speech is not a good characteristic

  • Cursing usually occurs when a person becomes overpowered by his anger

Cure:

Remember that Allah SWT is listening to our words and the angels are recording them

o   Put an internal process in place that if a certain situation occurs, we will not curse.  Each time that situation occurs, we will build a little more resistance to cursing until eventually we will not feel comfortable using that kind of language

o   Humbly seek forgiveness from the person we cursed at.  This pill of humility that we are taking by seeking forgiveness from that person is still less than the punishment of the fire of hell

o   Pray some nafl salah to be more mindful of cursing

o   Stay in the company of good people who don’t use their tongue in that manner

  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  The one who stays silent will be successful

o   We need to learn our limits of when to stay silent and avoid being fished into a discussion

o   We should be mindful in our conversations of what we are saying and how much information we are disclosing.  Many times we say things we should not be saying