Hasad (Jealousy)

  • When a person is afflicted with some difficulty from another person and he doesn’t have the ability to take revenge, then in his heart he feels anger towards that person. 

o   Because of his inability to do something about it, the anger turns into hatred Hasad:

o   If the hatred remains in the heart, it turns to hasad (jealousy)

o   If hasad remains in the heart, then the hasad grows to a level that can affect that person

  • If somebody praises us and forgets to say either ‘Alhamdulillah’ or ‘Masha’Allah’, we should immediately say them to remove the evil effects.  Our protection is in the remembrance of Allah SWT
  • If we have done something to anger another person and that person cannot do anything about it, we should neutralize their anger/hatred/hasad using the following points

o   1.  Be the first to do salaam to them

o   2.  Before going on a journey, we should inform them

o   3.  When returning from a journey, bring a gift for them

o   4.  Sometimes call them for breakfast

o   5.  Praise them in a circle in which they are known, when they are not present

o   6.  Make plenty of dua’ for them

o   7.  If somebody speaks ill of them in front of us, stop them and do not listen

  • If anger is triggered in our own heart because of something someone has done to us, forgiving them will remove the anger/hatred
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  The vilest of men is a person that another keeps his company to save himself from that man’s evil

o   We learn from this we can keep company with people in a certain way to neutralize their hasad

o   We can also stay away from them, but sometimes that may not be possible

Greed:

  • Solution for hirs (greed):

o   To sit in the company of the knowledgeable and pious

o   Finding a method of connecting ourselves with Allah SWT.  When Allah SWT’s love takes root in our heart, the greed will automatically neutralize

o   Remembering one’s ultimate end, death, and sometimes going to the graveyard to see the abode of the kings, princes, the rich, the poor, those that had something and those who didn’t and seeing what they took with them.  We can be mindful of the only things that benefit them once they are dead, such as pious children who supplicate for them.  One day we will be in that same situation

  • Man is greedy.  If the child of Adam has one value of gold, he will wish he had two.  This is a normal fitra that Alalh STW has created within us, but it has limits

o   هُوَ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَ لَكُم مَّا فِى ٱلۡأَرۡضِ جَمِيعً۬ا     (Allah has created for you all that the earth contains, Surah 2 Verse 29)

o   Not having greed does not mean not attaining the dunya.  There is no problem in attaining wealth as along you we attain it in a halal way.  The moment we attain wealth in a haram way, that is greed

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o   The system of the dunya is that we have to make effort to achieve, but in that process we should not forget Allah, the Prophet (ﷺ), and that we are going to die

Anger:

  • Anger is the root of hasad, greed, and many other diseases and shows its colors in many different ways
  • When a person becomes angry, in a situation where it is uncalled for, it curdles the ruh of the other person and it is very difficult to fix that
  • Anger can be both good and bad.  Anger provides us with drive, but needs to be appropriately controlled
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  Anger is an attribute of shaytan and shaytan has been created from fire
  • To neutralize anger:

o   Drink water

o   Make Wudu

o   If we angry at somebody and that person is beneath our command, ask for them to be removed from before us

o   If that person cannot be removed, we should remove ourselves from that gathering

o   Think that whatever this person has done to anger us, how many times we have done something that would invoke the anger of Allah in our lives.  If we cannot show compassion to this person, how can we expect Allah SWT to show compassion to us?  Who are we to be angry and not forgive when we have made so many errors and mistakes and Allah has forgiven us?

  • Often times we become angry and then later regret it and feel bad in our heart.  If we feel bad, the person we became angry upon feels worse.
  • We should think before we use the strength of anger that is given to us by Allah
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  A strong man is not a man who can wrestle another person to the ground.  A strong man is the one who controls his anger at the time of anger.

o   When a man has his anger controlled, then ro’b (awe) comes from him.

o   In England, hounds are used for hunting foxes.  A hound will remain in its place, even if it sees the prey, until the master does not release the hound.  Our hound is our anger and should only move at our command

o   When a person releases anger, he loses self-control.  But when he controls his anger and then approaches a situation, he is in control even though he is angry

  •  وَٱلَّذِينَ إِذَآ أَصَابَہُمُ ٱلۡبَغۡىُ هُمۡ يَنتَصِرُونَ    (And those who, when they are subjected to aggression, defend themselves  Surah 42, Verse 39)

o   One of the qualities of a believer is that when a transgression is done against him, he defends himself

o   To defend ourselves is not a problem, but it has to be in a controlled manner