Dua (Pray)

  • Certain people make dua’ but their clothing is from haram sources, the food they are sustained with is haram, and their earning is also haram.  For a person’s dua and forgiveness to be accepted, for that moment in time he has to have left everything.  This is why the ulema teach people to be continuous in seeking forgiveness
  • Comments such as “I don’t know what Allah SWT wants” or “When is He going to accept my duas” are complaints against Allah.  We cannot complain against Allah because He is the one who created everything and all the means around us
  • Sometimes Allah SWT delays in answering a dua, but this may be because we are not ready for that dua to be accepted right away

*   For example, a seven year old makes dua to become an alim and then after a few years the child says his dua hasn’t been accepted.  The child is not ready yet.  Sometimes as humans we ask for things that are beyond what our vessel can handle

*   Allah SWT prepares our vessel and makes us ready

*   The Prophet (ﷺ) explicitly told the sahaba not to ask for patience, unless they are in a situation in which patience is required.  If a person is not in a situation that requires patience and they ask for patience, they would be asking Allah SWT to put them in a situation that would require patience

*   One day, a man was looking very weak.  He was asked, ‘Why are you looking so weak?’  The man responded,  ‘I am making dua to Allah that He give me the punishment of my sins in this dunya.’  The Prophet (ﷺ) said, ‘You have the strength to take on the punishment of Allah?  If Allah has the ability to punish, He also has the ability to forgive without punishing.  Ask for afiya from Allah SWT.’

  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  Oh Allah, there is nothing that can deflect Your giving.  Then why should one despair?
  • Shaykh Ashraf Thanvi (RAH) said:  If the person who is making tawbah is not resurrected amongst the kamileen (people who are wholesome in their worship), then definitely he will be resurrected amongst the taaibeen (those who sought repentance)

*   A person should continuously ask for the mercy of Allah SWT.  If something is given, it is given through the grace of Allah SWT

*   A person should fear from the disobedience of Allah SWT like one fears a snake or scorpion

*   A person should make dua for his own rectification and ask his friends/elders/teachers to make dua for his rectification

Good opinion:

  • Hadith:  Have a good perception of your believing brothers

*   A person will be continuously rewarded for having husni dhan (good opinion) of someone until that good perception remains in their heart

*   On the Day of Judgment, a person will be rewarded for having husni dhan (good opinion) and will not be asked to provide proof of why they have that good opinion

  • If a person has a bad opinion of someone, on the Day of Judgment he will be asked to provide witnesses to his claim

*   When a person does not have a good opinion of someone, then enmity, hatred, envy, backbiting, and thinking of the other person as lower will enter the person’s heart

*   If a bad thought enters our heart about somebody, then we should think that on the Day of Judgment Allah SWT is going to ask us to provide proof about our perception

  • The environment we are in leaves an effect and indicators on our physical and spiritual state.  In the olden days, the ulema would pray two rakat before going into another person’s majlis asking Allah SWT to conceal their faults
  • The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) was standing at the door of his house with a woman.  A sahabi was walking by and the Prophet (ﷺ) called him.  The Prophet (ﷺ) pointed out that the woman standing next to him (ﷺ) is his (ﷺ) wife
  • o   The Prophet (ﷺ) called the sahabi to remove the perception that the Prophet (ﷺ) was standing with a random woman

*   The Prophet (ﷺ) said shaytan flows through your system like blood

As-salaamu ‘alaykum Wa Rahmatullah,

6/10/2014 Majlis Notes

Misuses of the tongue:

         1.  Conversation that has no benefit

         2.  Excessive talking

         3.  To glorify the actions of those who are disobedient to Allah

         4.  To engage in unbeneficial debate/discussion

         5.  To fight/argue

         6.  Imitating the speech of another group

         7.  To curse

*   Curse words are not the etiquette of a noble person and it doesn’t suit a believer.  It goes against the dignity of a hafidhul Quran that curse words come onto his tongue

*   Curse words are an addition from shaytan in our vocabulary, even if we don’t intend harm with them

*   When a person curses, it tears apart the soul of the person being cursed

*   Our parents can be cursed as a result of our cursing someone

*   A good word used in a cursing manner would also be considered cursing

*   If we are angry at somebody, we should give them dua rather than cursing at them

*   Solution:  Make a conscious decision to remove curse words from our vocabulary and to no longer use them

         8.  Talking back to our elders in an inappropriate manner or showing aggression in our speech towards them

*   A person who doesn’t respect someone who has ilm will eventually disrespect the sahaba, the Prophet (ﷺ), and Allah SWT

*   Hadith:  Whoever harms the friend of Allah, Allah declares war upon them

*   If our tongue opens against those who deserve respect and the honorable, then how will regular people be safe guarded from it?

*   If we disrespect our children, they will disrespect us.  If we do not show love and compassion for the people of the deen, then our children will not either

*   Allah SWT will open doors for people who show love and compassion for people of the deen

         9.  Saying “The curse of Allah be upon you” and using the tongue in a manner to curse another person

*   When someone says “The curse of Allah be upon you”, it goes to heavens.  If that person is worthy of that curse, then it goes into the doors of the heavens.  If that person is not worthy of that curse, the curse comes back down and falls upon the person who said the curse.  Saying similar things, e.g. “Now see what happens to you” has a similar effect

*   We should be careful when using our tongue, especially when attributing something to Allah

*   If a husband goes to sleep upset with his wife, the wife is cursed automatically.  The husband should forgive her before going to sleep otherwise he would be sleeping next to someone who is being cursed.  Similarly, a child who is disrespectful towards his parents is cursed

Evil consequences:

  • Our evil actions can bring about evil consequences upon us, but this is not always the case
  • Bad things happen to good people too.  The Prophet (ﷺ) went through much difficulty in his life, along with other prophets too.  Nuh (AHS) would be beaten by his people until he would become unconscious.  His people would then put him in a carpet and throw him outside the city limits.  Nuh (AHS) would come back and start warning again
  • We are always in some difficulty.  If someone starts doing good things and thinking “I’m doing good, but why is Allah punishing me?”  This is very dangerous because that person is objecting to Allah’s decree