Change

  •  يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلۡمُدَّثِّرُ (١) قُمۡ فَأَنذِرۡ (٢) وَرَبَّكَ فَكَبِّرۡ (٣) وَثِيَابَكَ فَطَهِّرۡ (٤) وَٱلرُّجۡزَ فَٱهۡجُرۡ (٥) وَلَا تَمۡنُن تَسۡتَكۡثِرُ (٦) وَلِرَبِّكَ فَٱصۡبِرۡ (٧)      (Surah 74, Verses 1-7 Oh you, enveloped in a mantle,  Stand up and warn, And pronounce the greatness of your Lord,  And purify your clothes, And keep away from filth, And do not do a favor (to anyone merely) to seek more (in return).  And for the sake of your Lord, observe patience.) 

*   Before receiving revelation, the Prophet (ﷺ) would worship Allah SWT in the mode that Ibrahim (AHS) worshipped Him.  His (ﷺ) time was spent in tafakkur and tafkeer (reflection and contemplation), muraqabah, and in wanting for Allah SWT to guide him towards the path.  On that mountain, He (ﷺ) was worshiping and also increasing His (ﷺ) capacity for what Allah SWT was eventually to give him – Nabuwwa (prophet hood).

*   Allah SWT says ‘lawlaaka ya Muhammad, maa khalaqtul khalaaiq.’  “If it wasn’t for you,  then I wouldn’t have created the entire creation” so that they would use you as an example and as a model of servitude towards Allah SWT. The Prophet (ﷺ) was the model of perfect servitude. 

*   The Prophet (ﷺ) even before prophet hood was of the highest of morals. The Prophet (ﷺ) was known for those praiseworthy attributes that today we have to persevere a whole lifetime to achieve.  

*   In the beginning, the Prophet (ﷺ) focused on warning those who were around him.  The first warning was given to those in his home so that there would be a foundation for that change

  • In order for a person to change how he lives, he should start from his home.  We should lay the foundation for change and the best way to do this is by waking up and praying fajr

Traits:

  • We should not be dry.  We should have a loving/laughing environment within the home
  • We should be forgiving

*   We should avoid extreme sayings, such as “Don’t even come to my janazah.”

*   If someone we don’t like comes to our house, we should be hospitable towards them

  • We do not have the right to stop talking to another person for more than three days

*   The three days can be extended if it is because a command of Allah SWT is being broken

*   The more days we wait, the greater the void becomes

*   The easiest way to handle this is by saying ‘Salaam’

  • We should fulfill the promises that we make and fulfill the trusts that we take

*   On the Day of Judgment, Allah SWT will ask the husband about being entrusted with a weaker partner and what did the husband do with that trust

*   The wife and children are an amana (trust) from Allah SWT

*   The Prophet (ﷺ) said: “All of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock.  An imam is a shepherd and his is responsible for those in his care.  A man is a shepherd in respect of his family and is responsible for those in his care.  The woman is a shepherd in respect of her husband’s house and is responsible for those in her care.  The servant is a shepherd in respect of his master’s property and is responsible for what is in his care.  All of you are shepherds and each of you is responsible for his flock.”

Amana:

  • Hadith:  Verily the person who is consulted is in a position of amana

*   For a person to be ameen, he has to have iman and knowledge in the amana that is given to him.  If we cannot be trusted, there is a deficiency in our iman

*   Amana is down in society because of the lack of knowledge and this leads to corruption and misguidance

  •   قَالَ ٱجۡعَلۡنِى عَلَىٰ خَزَآٮِٕنِ ٱلۡأَرۡضِ‌ۖ إِنِّى حَفِيظٌ عَلِيمٌ۬     (Surah 12, Verse 55  He said, “Appoint me to (supervise) the treasures of the land.  I am indeed a knowledgeable keeper)

*   When Yusuf (AHS) was being appointed as Treasurer, he had the qualities of being a guardian (hafeedh) and having knowledge of the position (aleem)

*   When selecting someone for a position, we should look at that person’s qualities

  • Hadith:  When your matters and affairs are handed over to people who are not worthy of being handed over these affairs, then you should wait for the Day of Judgment because there will be great trials and tribulations.  

Teacher:

  • If a person stays with a teacher and he doesn’t benefit/learn from him and he doesn’t progress, he is allowed to find another teacher.  Another reason is if the teacher has no time for his students or is too far
  • If the student finds his teacher to be hard on him, then this is not a reason for leaving the teacher

*   The student should humble himself.  Many students have a good intellect and good qualities, but they don’t have humility.  These types of students are surpassed by students who may not have the same type of intellect, but they are humble. 

*   If we cannot take our parents and our teacher’s rectifying us, then who will rectify us?

*   A student who leaves his teacher because the teacher is hard on him will be deprived and not learn

  • We must be careful to not have any ill feelings towards our teachers because that will corrupt our heart
  • The mother has the highest status, then the father, and then the teacher

*   The parents were the means of our physical presence in this world

*   The teacher is our means of our spiritual well-being in this world

*   The father and the teacher have different respect

  • We should honor the teachings and the person teaching because that honor and those teachings come from the Prophet (ﷺ).  Our teachers learned from their teachers, who learned from their teachers, etc, all the way up to the Prophet (ﷺ)

Conclusion:

  • A person who does not control his nafs, base self, he has attained nothing
  • We should humble ourselves and think we are nothing.  True honor and respect come through humility
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) said:  A person who humbles himself for the sake of Allah, and no other reason, then Allah SWT will elevate that person
  • The Prophet (ﷺ) has taught us thousands of things, but his main focus has always been that a human being act like one at any given time

May Allah accept this book through His divine grace and make it beneficial for everybody who has read it and give them the divine guidance and tawfiq to act upon it.  Please make dua’ for the author (Maulana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar). He was well known for women’s rights.  He introduced the concept in England that every woman should be given a separate income so that she can spend that individually without being asked as to where she spent it.  Even if it is a little amount of money and she has her own income, she should be given it from the husband’s income.